Are you getting a bunch of shit in your life that you feel like you just don’t deserve? For the last few months, it has been easy to say – things in the world (universe, really) are heavy and stressful – totally uncertain, no normal – probably ever… For me, it’s time to kick the excuses to the curb. I have also been in the space of dealing with things coming up that I don’t want. Many are things I have worked on, repeatedly… and here we are – another layer.
I am going to be completely real here – I have struggled for my entire life with relationships with my dad’s family. Some of them are not good people = thank Goddess I have nothing to do with them. Some of them I have desired connection and acceptance from and they continue to be selfish petty abusers. For 40 years, I have reverted back to that little girl, wanting to be loved by the people she looked up to…. I am intellectually aware of the pieces that I’ve been trying to fit into this puzzle. I breathe in the awareness that I am loved, protected and I got me… and breathe out the attachment to the toxic relationships that society has dictated I should have.
Family is not always who your grandparents raised, or your parents for that matter; but who you know has you without question.
You may have heard me talk about a recurring message that I am getting.. “Be the partner you desire.” This goes for “family” too. If you want something more out of any relationship, show up as more. I have spent the last few days considering where I want to show up as more. When I consider the quantity of places, it’s few… but the quality is high and that is the experience I want to share with my loved ones, including me.
Let’s take a look at the shit you are dealing with from this perspective. What of it really matters and what part of it is a story someone else has created or suggested or even imposed on you. Let that shit go!
I have a practice of viewing things through a series of filters. Here are the questions I ask when I am evaluating whether something or someone serves me:
- Is this my story? The answer does not necessary determine if I keep the story or not, but I find it useful to know if this perception is coming from my own experience or one that is not my vibration. I then consider where the story comes from.
- Does this serve me in my highest and best capacity? Every story, situation or person serves you. Just not all of them serve you in a good way. This discernment is critical to keep you on the path toward your best you.
- Keep, Rewrite or scrap? I have actually been taking the scrap approach more and more often as of late – Especially with relationships that have drama and bullshit. I don’t have the space or the bandwidth for that.
I invite you to try this approach with some of the things in your life that are causing you friction and discord. Review each of the things and have a ceremony to release those things that you are setting free.
